Your friend doesn't just want tips to switch careers; she wants support in making a scary but positive change.

Oftentimes when people ask for advice, what they really want is to rehash something they can't get off their mind—something they've probably talked about repeatedly to lots of different people (maybe even anyone who'd listen).

The best way to be a friend is to enable both what they to do.

You can still be an ear, take some time to think about it, and then share your thoughts later.

When someone comes to you for help, odds are they already feel pretty vulnerable.

It can feel gratifying to figure out what seems like the answer and then deliver it in a sermon.

It's like being a good advice detective when you figure out exactly what someone should or can do, and you feel even better when you can put it all into words eloquently.“If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind.” ~Buddha Nothing appears to be going right. If they say what you want to hear, you're relieved. In fact, oftentimes you're more frustrated than you were before once they put their two cents in. Think back real hard—what in particular helped or irked you about advice people gave you? Even though you know this is all temporary—it always is—you feel the need to ask other people what you should do.If you tell your sister to take a risk, make sure she knows it a risk.Help her weigh the possible outcomes, both positive and negative so she can decide if it's worth the potential reward.When you make the proactive decision to find answers for yourself, you feel both empowered and confident in your ability to make the right decision.