But on the off chance it would crush your wife to be told everything, just tell her about Ms. After a few tense years, we started couples therapy.

So with your couples therapist there to mediate, tell him your marriage is either open or closed.

You're not interested in being his cuckold and he can't point to his trauma to force you into that role.

You're a handsome couple—thanks for enclosing the lovely picture (sometimes it's nice to see the face of the person I'm responding to!

)—with a long history together, and here's hoping things work out.

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After trying some new arrangements—only together, only at sex parties, DADT—he realized he wasn't comfortable with any situation.

He told our therapist that every time I hooked up with someone, he was retraumatized because it reminded him of the time I broke up with him for six months 20 years ago.

On the other hand, I have been deceitful and manipulative for almost my entire adult life. Part of my motivation for writing is that I am particularly attached to the woman I'm having an affair with now, and both of us fantasize about being together openly. And these women didn't "turn into" one-year, three-year, seven-month, and four-months-and-counting affairs on their own.

On the one hand, I do not regret my time with any of these women. We are also very socially and financially entangled. And if so, I need help considering an exit strategy. It doesn't "just keep happening," ASSHOLE, you keep doing it.

He says this would be best, since my hooking up triggers him. But they were cuckold couples, GMHC, and the half who didn't "get to" hook up with others didn't want to hook up with others.